There is always this one thing that stops each of us from achieving our full potential. You and I can all give an example of the times when we felt unsure of our every move. Something we could not define held us back. This is FEAR. There are various degrees of fear depending on the person experiencing it. Don’t get me wrong, there is a degree of fear that is healthy, I am referring to the kind that could leave you paralyzed and with so much self doubt, worry and low self esteem.
I am currently in my final year and several times I have found myself wondering What Next After School?
This is one of my fears and I am sure some of my colleagues in school are going through the same phase. I have talked to some of my friends in the tech field and I realized no matter how much advice I got, I am the only one who could get myself out of this situation. You may wonder, What have I resolved to do?
I am facing my fears each day. I this case, choosing to leave each day at a time, analyzing my deeds, enjoying what I do and picking up challenges that improve my skills as a developer. This hasn’t been easy especially, when all of a sudden you have to sleep for less hours and your code isn’t compiling with 103 errors. It can get disappointing I agree. I am learning to handle frustrations and I have to face my frustrations head on. For those who have watched, the animation, Avatar The Last Air Bender, I am learning Earth Bending!
I am Learning to FEEL the FEAR and DO IT ANYWAY!!
I mean what’s the worst that can happen??
This is a concept I learnt after reading Susan Jeffers book “Feel the Fear… and Do It Anyway”. She talks about fear, and moving from the zone of pain to power. Yes, fear makes you feel powerless and it is damn painful. This is why most people do not advance from their bad relationships or bad jobs. They would rather complain day in day out while in their comfort zone as compared to taking a risk at personal fulfillment and happiness.
She also points out the five truths about fear:
The fear will never go away as long as I continue to grow.
The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it.
The only way to feel better about myself is to go out . . . and do it.
Not only am I going to experience fear whenever I’m on unfamiliar territory, so is everyone else.
Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the underlying fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness.
It is also important to know that you are not the only one going through fear, each person does, but what we do to handle this fear is what sets us apart from each other.
I have made the choice to be happy, to do me and to do what I enjoy, no matter what. I can’t give up, I wasn’t born to. You should try this too!
No matter what life brings at me, I’ll handle it.
Go out and Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway!!
The Earth Bender